What is Adoption?
Adoption is the permanent placement option with which most people are familiar. Children and youth become available for adoption after a Judge has terminated the rights of the parents or the parents have relinquished their parental rights. Adoption provides the strongest legal permanent option for a child or youth. At the adoption hearing the adoptive parent is granted all the legal rights, privileges and responsibilities of parenthood. The foremost benefit to the child is that there is someone who is going to be there as he or she grows to adulthood and beyond. The primary benefits for the adoptive parent are the fulfillment of a desire to raise a child or youth to adulthood and to maintain a lifetime relationship with that individual.
Why Become an Adoptive Parent?
People become adoptive parents for many reasons; usually of a deeply personal nature. Some couples become adoptive parents because they are medically unable to have children of their own. Some individuals in domestic or alternative relationships seek to build a family through adoption. Adoption is also a viable alternative for single parents wanting to have children. Some parents; who already have a family, sometimes seek to provide a family for children based upon a desire to make a difference in another child’s life. Whatever the reason, we at Denver Human Services are always seeking adoptive parents for our children and youth.
Denver Human Services currently has 40 children on our waiting adoption list. Most are between the ages of 5 and 16 and are primarily of Hispanic and African American descent. All of these children have a history of abuse/neglect to varying degrees and may have special needs related to this abuse/neglect.
These needs may be psychological, medical, educational, social, or cultural in nature. These children are in need of adoptive families to provide the nurturance necessary to thrive and overcome the traumas of their past.
Attributes of our Successful Adoptive Parents
With the Child in Activities the Child Enjoys:
Laughter truly is the best healing medicine. The adoptive parent learns those fun activities that the child or youth enjoys and shares these with the child. It is during these times that the parent and child develop trust and bonding.
- Patient: Children and
youth adopted from our system require time to let go of fear and suspicion. The
adoptive parent will need to take many small steps to help the child relearn how
to trust again.
- Applies Consistent
Structure and Discipline: The adoptive parent will need to learn to not
take an adoptive child’s emotional reactions personally. Children who have been
abused often do not understand the difference between correction and abuse and
may act erractic. The adoptive parent will need to learn to lovingly detach
during these times while the child/ youth learns the difference.
- Able to Focus on the
Needs of the Child: Some adoptive children may cling to the new parent.
Others may appear to separate from the parent and family. The adoptive parent
will need to learn to recognize the child’s way of protecting self and reinforce
those times when the child responds to loving support.
- Helps the
Adoptive Child to Integrate Into the Family.
- The adoptive child begins to integrate into the family as trust is developed with the parent. The adoptive parent encourages and teaches the child to build trusting relationships with all family memb
Become an Adoptive
The process to become an adoptive parent has several steps. These are:
- Meet the Legal
Requirements to become an Foster Care/Adoptive Parent
- Attend a Foster and
Adoptive Parent Information Meeting
Call us at our information line at 720-944-4000 to register to attend a Foster and Adoptive Parent Information Meeting. You can also register for the meeting on line by clicking here.
- Become a Certified
Potential adoptive children are placed with you in your home for a minimum of six months prior to the adoption being finalized. This is to be sure that the relationship is a positive one for you and the child and that you receive the services and necessary training to build a relationship with your child.
If you choose to become an adoptive parent an Adoption Support Worker will be assigned to help you through the certification process and answer all your questions.
Legal Requirements to Become an Adoptive Parent
Before a prospective foster parent can become certified he/she must meet some minimal legal requirements:
- Normally, applicants must be 21 years
of age or older and if married, both spouses must be willing to join in the
petition for adoption.
- Stable employment or sufficient source
of legal income; Stable living situation;
- No recent criminal activity or jail
- No recent history of domestic violence
or drug or alcohol abuse;
- Any previous histories of abuse as a
child, domestic violence, drug or alcohol abuse, must have been dealt with in
professional therapy; Report/s from the therapist will be needed;
- No history of crimes against children, sexual assault or certain felony level crimes of violence.
We Support Diversity
Denver Human Services supports diversity among foster parents. We do not discriminate against potential Foster or Adoptive parents on the basis of race, religious affiliation, marital status, economic status or sexual identity. The capacity of the prospective adoptive parent to meet the needs of the child and what is in the best interest of the child are the primary factors used to determine the adoptive placement. Cross cultural and cross racial adoptions are also supported. Our children need loving homes and we need you. Become a foster adopt/foster parent today.